35.
If you expect people to read between the lines, be sure the font is dark and
bold – & don’t forget to double space.
Even if something seems clear to you, the person with whom you’re
trying to communicate isn’t necessarily on the same page – or even reading the
same book! Subtle often doesn’t work.
36.
Whether it’s arson or an accident, you can’t unburn a bridge. You might be
willing and able to rebuild it, eventually, but getting a permit from the right
person can be problematical.
If those on the other side do not want to reconnect, it’s time to find
a different route.
37.
The pain-level of an insult is directly proportional to its truth-level.
How insulting or worth worrying about is a falsehood? But if there’s a
kernel, or more, of truth....
38.
Unsolicited opinions are like pennies: easy enough to find one lying around and
worth about as much.
People will ask what you think if they really care. Actually, they
might ask and still not care (See Rule #32).
39.
Blaming others for your failure to ask for what you need is a little backwards.
(If you don’t A-S-K, you don’t G-E-T.)
Your friends and loved ones are not mind readers; if you need
something from them, it’s your job to ask for it.
40.
Just because you have the right doesn’t make it right.
Make decisions involving others as if you were the other party.
It’s called empathy.
41.
Make sure your path to the target is clear when tossing a well-aimed dart – you
never know who might walk in front of it.
Nothing worse than hurting someone because you weren’t paying attention.
42.
Rules written in crisp, dark black print on starkly white paper may be clear
but are also fragile and easily broken.
I prefer fuzzy grey ones that let me apply my own grey (matter).
43.
If what you’re doing to win her (him) isn’t real, the relationship won’t be
either.
And if it’s not a real relationship, how can it be sustainable?
Link to some similar ideas in a different form from another source
And now, the (revised) original list. Most of the phrasing, if not the idea
itself, is mine, but those I knowingly borrowed are in italics.
1 You don’t get a discount on the Happy Meal just
because you’re not….
2 Being “right” is over-rated….
3 Love increases in direct proportion to usage.
4 Better to ask forgiveness than permission.
5 Find satisfaction in achieving the best result
possible instead of frustration over failing to achieve the best possible
result.
6 There's no “undo key” for life.
7 Don’t worry about what other people think about
you, because, in fact, they’re not (thinking about you).
8 Most people are capable of redemption, but only
if you allow it.
9 If one sincere apology isn’t enough, forgiveness
isn’t really on the agenda (Okay, maybe two).
10 Life is a marathon, not a sprint.
11 Not liking an answer doesn’t make it wrong.
12 Being correct and being wrong are NOT mutually
exclusive.
13 If you’re both the host and guest of honor at a
Pity Party, don’t expect a large turnout.
14 Although your body offers numerous hints, it’s
when your mind stops growing that marks the beginning of the end.
15 You never know the limits of your reach until
you fall on your face.
16 Try to go where you’re invited, stay away from
where you're not.
17 If you can’t like yourself, what’s the point for
anyone else?
18 Be a good audience.
19 Admitting that you are/were wrong is both
cathartic and liberating.
20 If you can never be satisfied, don’t be
surprised when people stop trying.
21 Wherever you go, there you are.*
22 It’s just so much easier to tell the truth in
the first place.
23 Stereotyping victimizes both the typee and
typer.
24 Just because you agree with me doesn’t mean I’m
right. **
25 If you insist on seeing the glass half-empty (or
less), don’t be surprised if someone just drinks the rest.
26 The loudest voice has no more claim to truth
than the softest.
27 It’s way easier to fix the flaws in others than
deal with your own.
28 You can always find something to complain about,
but I’m not sure how that’s helpful to anyone.
29 People will generally live up to or down to your
expectations.
30 If you want to make a fresh start, it will
require more than a change in location.
31 If you’ve never offended anyone, it’s likely
you’ve never said or done anything worth thinking about.
32 If someone really wants your advice or opinion,
they’ll ask.
33 Hey, if you’re going to nurse a grudge, at least
make it over something life-altering.
34 Pay yourself first.
35 If you expect people to read between the lines, make
sure the font is dark and bold – and don’t forget to double space.
36 Whether it’s arson or an accident, you can’t unburn a
bridge. You can rebuild it, eventually, but getting a permit from the right
person can be problematical.
37 The pain-level of an insult is directly proportional
to its truth-level.
38 Unsolicited opinions are like pennies – it’s easy
enough to find one lying around -- and it’s worth about as much. (See Rule #32)
39 Blaming others
for your failure to ask for what you need is a little backwards. (If
you don’t A-S-K you don’t G-E-T.)
40 Just because you have the right doesn’t make it right.
41 Make sure your path to the target is clear when
tossing a well-aimed dart -- you never know who might walk in front of it.
42 Most rules written in crisp, dark black print on
starkly white paper may be clear but are also fragile and easily broken.
43 If what you’re doing to win her (him) isn’t real, the
relationship won’t be either.
44 You’re welcome to borrow or revise any of these, but
you’re better off with your own list; it is, after all, YOUR life.
45 Always leave room for one more….
*Apparently stolen from
Confucius. Who knew? I thought I was using something from Buckaroo Banzai
Across the Eighth Dimension.
**The converse is also true.
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